Mister John Doe

So I had lunch with my girl the other day, it was like any other meal. We talked while eating even though we knew it wasn't proper manners. And most of the things we talked about may not be of interest to y'all so ama just cut straight to the chase.

You see, Shonda (friend of mine) mentioned a guy that she met who couldn't get his eyes off her. Not just his eyes, his whole being seemed attentive to her. He liked to take liberties with his words; saying things that were baseless and he certainly didn't mean, like I got all it takes to be your keeper, ama stick with you like skin to rubber - what!? *rolling eyes*. Oh, his name is John Doe.

John Doe is one man like many others who thinks the womenfolk were designed only for men's desires. As such he can't understand ladies who hold their own or pay scant attention to men. He sees the idea of a woman being selective in her dealings with men as stupid. And just like a man who takes without asking and paying, in his eyes, relationships are favours, one in which the guy benefits and she'd better be thankful that his good graces are spent on her. So she does the work for what they have to last but he thinks she's dispensable. Yeah, men like John Doe are really popular and they're not just on campuses.

This isn't a tract about identifying the male blemish (named John Doe by me but which has other names in guys that you know), no! This, is my reaction to John Doe as Shonda dished it out. You shouldn't be surprised to hear that they became enemies just as fast as he fell for her.

“Mister John Doe. Listen to me. I hear you use words like love and affection saying things like “I love you” when you mean “Girl pay attention to only me” and “love makes the world go round”  when we, you and I and everyone else, know that love is far from you or your environs. The word scarcely leaves your mouth than it is out of your mind. You want an exclusive woman but you are nothing like it. You claim that making love to a woman is more than just an exercise but the number of women who have been hurt by your emotional bankruptcy is ever –increasing. Raising hopes with your fatal ideas, expecting more but giving less, quick to dissect a female who is out of line by “male” standards, without discipline yet lover of virtue, mister John Doe. Every man likes to have a good thing as his but men should strive to be deserving, don’t you think so? I see you hop from leg to leg, telling her that you love her no matter who she is, day in day out you’re ever full of words to cajole her as soon as she catches your fancy. Spreading your “love” around freely like it has no value, here a little, there a little. Why is your love so cheap?”

For the sake of those who think his actions are acceptable, may I inform you that John Doe’s love vanishes when he has an erection and his needs are satisfied [just because] but he thinks he deserves it. Payment for his talk you say, - ha! Leaving shattered pieces in his wake, John Doe’s relationships are no longer than the lifespan of a firecracker. He starts out hot and dies out just as quickly, it’s not entirely his fault that he can’t be tied down.

Seems to me sir, and ma, that the phenomenon called John Doe lacks either knowledge or sense or both. As loud as a siren, he’s disaster always ready to happen. I suggest that his mind be checked as he displays evidence of serious psychological trauma. Of course, he remains unaware of the malady he possesses and his exposure to other ailments. His ego poses an even greater risk factor, thinking only about himself, the words he spouts when bruised are venomous scorpions lacerating victims. One should stay away from this man, he just might never change. In some cases, outwardly, John Doe looks like a morally upright man who is fighting for balance in the society. Unfortunately, there is no more skilled hypocrite than he, for all his talk, he is as dirty as they come.

Heaven forbids that a girl reject his overtures as quickly as it comes, he turns fire breather. You see, not every lady aspires toward marriage or relationship and some of those that do, aspire towards other things as well. Being female does not stop one from having a life, so when she ignores guys, it doesn’t mean she’s lesbian or feminist (although that could be the case), it could mean the supposed guys are not eligible or good enough by her standards or she’s got other things or men in mind or she simply is uninterested. Is that so difficult to understand? If a female should be more “serious-minded”, shouldn’t males be even more so?

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25/10/2016 
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